An article was published today in a local newspaper about the worrying trend of child sexual abuse in Suriname. The numbers aren’t getting any lower with each year and sexual abuse now even occurs at soccer clubs and kindergartens according to the article. Of course sexual abuse is a worldwide problem of which not only children are victims, but also adults (both men and women). And for years now I’ve noticed that every time when such an article gets published, people’s reactions are basically the same. Most of the time they mention the need for more laws and regulations, harsher punishments, encourage violence against the perpetrators, etc. etc. Basically the kind of reactions you would expect from very primitive societies with primitive thinking people. It seems that we like to take care of the symptoms of most problems in society every time, but are afraid to look for and solve the underlying root causes — the only thing that can guarantee positive and lasting long term results.
People seldom take the time to think about what exactly is causing others to behave the way they do. We’re all products of our environment, and when our environment is working against us, we’re going to start to exhibit extreme and undesirable behavior. Think about it, why would anyone want to sexually abuse someone else? Hell, why would anyone want to sexually abuse a child?? The root causes are so blatantly obvious it baffles me every time when I see that people just don’t seem to realize it.
As human beings we all have a core set of basic needs 1 that have to be satisfied in order to live a normal life. Those are our natural needs that we simply cannot ignore. One of those — arguably one of the most important — is the need for sexual satisfaction. Like I often mention in my articles, Dr. Sigmund Freud established the sexual desires as the primary motivating forces of human life. He also made clear in his research that we can expect dire consequences for an individual, and a society of individuals, if the sexual needs aren’t being satisfied adequately.
So in a society where there’s a lot of sexual repression, where women are programmed from very early childhood to withhold sex and to be very difficult with regard to their sexual needs, 2 where religion encourages sexual suppression, and where people are very hypocritical about sex in general, it becomes very difficult for people to satisfy their sexual desires. And when this is the case, it eventually leads to violent behavior and sexual perversion. Men and women get sexually molested and raped, children get sexually abused by both men and women, and people start to develop more extreme and perverted sexual desires (such as homosexuality, pedophilia and incest). Even such issues as teen pregnancies and abortions are the result of sexual repression in society. 3
The only solution to these problems is for society to drastically change the way it treats sex. All of us need to acknowledge the sexual needs of every individual, regardless of their age, 4 and we have to be open about our sexual needs and treat it as a normal and natural part of life, which in fact it is. People should then be encouraged to satisfy their sexual desires whenever they feel like it, without fear of social repercussions and without any strings attached. As explained in the fifth part of my series on Understanding Women, especially women are being conditioned by society to suppress and repress their sexual desires. 5 And when we get to a point where there’s no sexual repression anymore in society and everyone can easily satisfy their sexual needs, then not only will the cases of sexual abuse in general drop significantly, but we’ll also solve a host of other problems in society as well.
No amount of laws and punishments are going to help if the root cause isn’t taken care of. Again, we have to stop treating symptoms and we have to start treating the underlying root problems in society. This exact same problem with our thinking can be seen in many other parts of life as well. For example the way people treat the issue of crime in society; they always propose the same “solutions” which are more laws and regulations, harsher punishments, violence against the perpetrators etc. etc. Nobody wants to analyze and understand what exactly drives people to become criminals. It’s like I mentioned in another article:
When it comes down to it, all we really need on this planet as human beings is food on the table every day and a roof over our heads. That’s basically all we really need to get us through our lives. After all these years, you would think that by now we’d all have figured this out already and have structured our societies in such a way where every human being on this planet could at the very least have access to those two things for his entire lifetime. But instead what we have is a constant struggle of people trying to have more than the other in order to stay on top in this system. Like crabs in a barrel. Everyone fighting for more and more, even if they have more than enough already, at the expense of others. As a result, we end up with a situation where the richest 1% of adults own 40% of global assets, where the richest 10% of adults own 85% of global assets, and where the bottom half of the adults own 1% of global wealth. Think about that for a moment. Then we go on asking ourselves why we’re dealing with so much crime. Nobody is born a criminal. Nobody really wants to be a criminal. Crime is just a symptom of our flawed society. When we create situations where a small group of people are hoarding all the resources on this planet, while a large group of people are struggling to survive every day (and in extreme cases are just outright being denied their basic rights), we shouldn’t act surprised when people start behaving in extreme ways in order to survive. And with this I’m not validating criminal behavior, but just saying that there’s a lot more to the problem and that we have to start looking at the root causes now instead of simply blaming the criminals while we fight the symptoms.
Another example is the world-wide problem with corruption. Like I explained in my article on Income Taxation, in a society that is fundamentally flawed and set up to enslave and manipulate people by attacking their right to life, we shouldn’t be surprised to find corrupt people everywhere. Faced with an attack on their right to life, people are going to behave in extreme ways in order to survive.
So people aren’t the issue; it’s the way our society is structured that causes issues and creates undesirable behavior. When we develop the intellectual awareness and the courage to start solving the root problems instead of the symptoms and transform our societies to be more supporting towards the individual and his basic needs, only then will we really solve problems for the long term and start to notice significant improvements.
Nothing inspires murderous mayhem in human beings more reliably than sexual repression. Denied food, water, or freedom of movement, people will get desperate and some may lash out at what they perceive as the source of their problems, albeit in a weakened state. But if expression of sexuality is thwarted, the human psyche tends to grow twisted into grotesque, enraged perversions of desire. Unfortunately, the distorted rage resulting from sexual repression rarely takes the form of rebellion against the people and institutions behind the repression. (If it did, perhaps we’d be reading of abused priests rather than priests as abusers.) Instead, the rage is generally directed at helpless victims who are sacrificed to the sick gods of guilt, shame, and ignorant pride.
With religion promoting sexual suppression, is it surprising that there are so many cases of child sexual abuse in churches everywhere? Regarding teen pregnancy, I’ve come across a few reported cases in the media where teen pregnancy was the result of fear, guilt and shame. In one case a girl was too afraid to talk openly to her parents about sex, and was afraid to ask her doctor for birth control thinking they might notify her parents. As a result she got pregnant. It wouldn’t surprise me if it turned out that the majority of teen pregnancy cases were to blame on similar issues, some of which are also mentioned below.
A guy’s name was Albert Fish. They believe he ate 40 children. And the public wanted to tear him to pieces or burn him alive. They were very bitter about it. A psychiatrist named Wertham. His name was Wertham. He said, “Don’t kill him. I want to try to find out what made him that way. So we can avoid those conditions in the future.” I like that guy. And here is what he found. When Albert Fish was eight years old, he was touching his private parts. His mother was an old time Baptist, good person. She came in and said, “You’re going to burn in hell touching that part of your body. That is satanic, and you will burn eternally.” She scared the shit out of the kid. And the mother said at 2:00 in the morning he was screaming. As she went into the bedroom he stuck needles into his genitals because he didn’t want to go to hell. Can you understand? Then he used to take minority kids into the woods and tried to cut their genitals off to save them from hell.
You can hear this in the interview below at around 1 hour and 25 minutes in. While few children will ultimately develop themselves in such an extreme way because of sexual repression, they are in fact being mentally damaged by it and they, and society in general, will have to deal with the adverse consequences later in life.
Also, do we really have to keep sending adult women to jail because of having sex with “under aged” boys? Isn’t it obvious that both the adult women and young boys are just healthy human beings wanting to satisfy their natural sexual needs? Where’s the harm in that? Especially when nobody is being manipulated or misled, they act out of their own free will and desires, and there’s love involved? Shouldn’t we instead help them and teach them how to be responsible with their needs?
The research reviewed suggests that these gender differences are in fact rooted in much more mundane causes: stigma against women for expressing sexual desires; women’s socialization to attend to other’s needs rather than their own; and, more broadly, a double standard that dictates (different sets of) appropriate sexual behaviors for men and women.
I recommend reading the whole article for the details.